How Does Conscious Parenting Work?
What comes up for us when we feel triggered? Why do we at
times feel overwhelmed and at a loss when it comes to doing
what’s ‘right’ for our kids in the moment? What are we left
with when our ‘go-to’ strategies don’t work anymore?
In challenging moments, so often we think we are dealing with
the situation that’s in front of us, but in reality we are
more likely repeating or keeping an old belief system going
that is instead shaping how we respond to what’s happening in
the moment.
By using our everyday parenting experiences as opportunities
to look more deeply into what’s going on for us on the inside,
we develop greater self awareness. Looking within, we can
start to see how we may have been projecting our own
unresolved childhood wounds onto our kids, unconsciously.
Understanding how emotional legacies get passed down from one
generation to the next helps us recognise when we too are
enacting old patterns from our past and how deeply these
(previously) unconscious loops re-play and impact the way we
parent.
Once we become aware, we can disrupt these old patterns and
belief systems that were created early on and break free of
them. It takes courage and vulnerability for parents to ‘clean
up our own stuff' so our kids absorb less of it.
This is where it all starts – when we courageous parents do
the ‘inner work’ and learn how to recognise, regulate and
connect with ourselves first, we can then grow the capacity to
truly connect and attune to our kids – empowering them to live
their lives with authenticity and growing into resilient,
capable and compassionate adults. The best motivation!